UDU TO ZARUR UDU PAR ZAMEEN PAR CHALNA NA BHULU

Giri to thi zameen par girkar uthne k liye,
Ek nayi mushkil ko paar karne k liye,
Shuruwat se pehle ki uljhano ko suljhane k liye.

Wo girna girna nahi;
Shuruwat thi ek naye padaav ki;
Shuruwat thi sapno ki duniya me udne ki.

Koshish ek hi rahegi,
giru to zarur giru par uthna naa bhulu...
Udu to zarur udu par zameen par chalna na bhulu...

आज या कल...?

हमारी ज़िन्दगी कितनी फ़ास्ट हो गयी है. हर पल बस भागते रहते है कल को बेहतर बनाने के लिए. पर क्या कभी किसीने सोचा के ऐसा क्यों है? हम कल के चक्कर में आज को जीना ही भूल गए है. कल अच्छा हो उस के लिए हम आज को कुर्बान कर बैठे है. लेकिन क्या हम्मेसे कोई ये समज पाया है के यही कल आज में तब्दील होगा? वही आज जिसे हम कल के लिए जीते है. जब पूछा जाता है ऐसा क्यों है तो हम कहते है के कम्पटीशन बढ़ गया है क्या कर सकते है? इस दौड़ में बने रहना है तो भागना तो पड़ेगा ही.

पर आपको नहीं लगता के ये इसका सही जवाब नहीं है. हम इसलिए नहीं भागते क्योंकि हमे इस दौड़ में बने रहना है. पर हम इसलिए भागते है क्योंकि हम डरते है. अब आप ये सोच रहे होंगे के डर, केसा डर? 

ये डर की दो वजह हो सकती है. या तो हम इसलिए डरते है क्योकि हम नहीं जानते के कल क्या होगा. हम नहीं जानते  के हमारे आने वाले कल में हमारे साथ क्या होगा, कौन होगा, केसा होगा. हम डरते है की अगर कल हालात बुरे हुए तो! और बुरी ज़िन्दगी कौन जीना चाहेगा? शायद इसलिए हम अपने आज में कल को तैयार करने में जुट जाते है. ताकी हम अपना कल अपनी तरीके से जी  सके, जैसा हम चाहे वैसा. 

पर इस डर का एक और कारण भी हो सकता है. कई बार ऐसा भी होता है के हमे मालूम हो के हमारे आने वाले कल में हमारे साथ क्या होने वाला है, शायद एक छोटासा आभास ही हो. पर वो आभास और भी डरावना होता है. आप सोच रहे होंगे के कुछ ना मालूम होनेसे तो बेहतर है के कुछ तो जानते है. पर ऐसा होता नहीं. अगर हमे जरासा भी आभास हो के हमारे कल में क्या लिखा है तो कईबार ये और भी डरावना होजाता है. जानते है क्यों? क्योकि शायद हम नहीं चाहते है हमारा कल वैसा हो. इसलिए हम डरते है उस कल के खयाल से उस पल के ख्यालसे जिसे हम नहीं देखना चाहते जिसे हम नहीं महसूस करना चाहते है. और अगर हम उस कल को जीना चाहते है तो ये डर सताने लगता है के अगर वैसा ना हुआ जैसा हमे लगता है तो?

कई बार तो समज नहीं आता क्या करे? क्या ना करे? हम ऐसी दुविधा में होते है के किसी को कुछ बता भी नहीं सकते. बस सोचते रेह जाते है परेशान अकेले घबराते हुए ... हमे लगता है मानो ज़िन्दगी यही रुक जाए जहां हम आज को खुलके जीए. इस आज को महसूस करे. बस और कोई चाहत ना हो. ना कल का कोई डर.

Useless things have their own useful roles

Before doing anything in life we always think will doing this thing help us in anyway? Is it meaningful? Is it having any sense? 

We always try to find how will it be useful in future. Why? Because we don't want to waste our time on unnecessary things. In today's fast and hyper competitive world it is but obvious wasting time is equal to a loss of crores of rupees. 

But you know when does the problem occur. Problem occurs when we enjoy doing that useless thing. 

I would like to share my own example over here which may be applicable to almost all the students. 

It so may happen. Tomorrow is your exam. But due to certain reason you are highly frustrated or sad or anything, the only fact is you are not in a mood to study at all. And even if you try hard you cannot focus. In front of you there is a laptop with loads of good movies and songs. And of-course when you are not in a mood to study you are going to be attracted by such stuff. Now what to do in such a situation? You want to study but you cannot focus. Why? Because you are highly distracted by something.

Now in such a situation the best option is to do what you love the most as a part of the entertainment. Like for me listening to songs or watching some good movies or comedy serials often works. So i choose to do either of them. 

You may be feeling what nonsense is this. It is a waste of time. But i will say it is a necessity in such a situation. Now you may be wondering how can it be useful. 

Well its very simple, your mind is highly distracted by something very painful. This is not only going to keep your mind busy but will also keep your heart heavy. And when your mind is busy it is but obvious that you are not going to concentrate on anything else. And if you pressurize yourself to do the same, you are simply going to spoil the same. Hence, the only option with you is to empty your mind first and make yourself light hearted. It is just like a bucket. If you want to fill a bucket you need to empty it first. Otherwise it will overflow and the water that you will try to put in the filled bucket is only going to be wasted. Similarly,  to fill up your mind with something new and good and essential, you need to empty the useless things from it. And doing something that entertains you help you emptying your mind. Because they are best at distracting you from your current situation. It will not only remove such frustration from your mind but will also help in freeing your heart from such pain. And then you will be able to concentrate on the things which are indispensable to be done. 

But again you should know when to stop. Once you feel you are OK and well enough to concentrate you should refrain yourself from your piece of entertainment. ;) 

Thus, doing useless for the useful is sometimes not only useful but also essential. So if you feel you are not in a position to do something important devote your some time for something unimportant. This will create more enthusiasm in you for doing your important tasks and duties.

Role models are those whom we admire

Role models are those whom we admire

There are several people who have inspired me in one or the other way. Right from my childhood, she was my mother who inspired me to have some dreams in life. My mother had certain dreams which she could not fulfill. She never wanted me to have such regret in my life. Hence she always encouraged and motivated me to chase my dreams. It was her trust in me that inspired me.

I have always been living within certain boundaries. I was not even confident enough that if I go out of my boundaries, whether I will be able to face the challenges or not. It was simply the dreams that my mother had for me that led me to a new phase of my life successfully when I went up for my post graduation to some other city.

I met several people in this city. Initially I was not accepted by most of the local residents. Being from a small city, people were with the conventional thinking of what this girl may know, she belongs to a small town. But I didn’t lose hope. I kept moving up my experience curve and soon I was able to create a beautiful picture of my own. Recently I came across one of the most inspiring statements, “Work until you don’t need to introduce yourself.” It didn’t take me much time to fulfill the meaning of this statement and everyone knew me very well. I neither required to introduce myself nor was I anymore a girl from a small town who didn’t know anything.

Soon I completed my first year and entered the second year. In this year, everyone was supposed to select their specializations and accordingly the classes were reshuffled. It was just like the first day of the college, new friends, some new faculties, and new subjects. But frankly this was one such year where my learning curve rose to a greater height. During this year we met a professor who was not just our class co-ordinator but one of the highly talented persons. He is considered to be the guru of our field. Before meeting him I was simply a studious girl who was indulged just in scoring well in her mark sheets; just like Hritik Roshan in Zindagi na Milegi Dobara who thought that to become successful and a huge name you only need money. He was this professor who brought me closer to some great authors other than my studies like Subrato Bagchi, Robin Sharma, Brian Tracy and many more. The way he gives his presentations and the way he encourages inspired me to become a good communicator and a presentator.

Then, there was a replacement of one of our faculties by our own senior student. Initially we were not at all ready to accept him as he was our senior and I bunked his classes. I assumed him to be very stubborn, boring and studious. And I was not ready to accept his stubbornness. I wanted to know the reason behind his stubbornness. And then under the influence of one of my friend’s suggestion, I thought to give him a chance and started to attend his sessions. The more I attended his sessions the more I started to understand him. I realized that he is not stubborn; he is a person who is in a terrible distress given by various situations of his life. I realized that there were many things about him which were behind the curtain. One of my problem is I can not see a person distressed by the situations of his/her life. So out of my high curiosity, I found out that he was just as similar to me. Highly creative and passionate personality. He loves writing poems the most and I love to spend time with my art. The person who once had highest priority in my rejection list has become one of the most respected persons today. He brought me closer to my art and inspired me to improve upon my writing skills.

There are people who, whenever asked who is your inspiration give the name of highly successful people like Ratan Tata, Dhirubhai Ambani, etc. But for me, my inspiration are not those who have become huge names but those who are trying to become huge names, who are having big dreams in their eyes.

Do you know role models are of two types? Ones, who set goals for us and try  to make us as good as they are. And second, who help us to avoid those mistakes that they had committed in their past. Hence for me these people who are closer to me are my role models and not those huge names. This is because you cannot clearly define how true their success story is but when your role models are your own family, friends, acquaints you are more into their personal details and hence you are in a position where you have proofs to all their success.

I am not saying; not to have big names as role models nor I am saying that these success stories our fake. What I want to stress on is don’t try to become like one. Try to understand how one has become what he/she is and try to determine how that can be used to become what you want to be. Being a billionaire is not important but how you have pursued the path of becoming the billionaire is more important.

The Wheel is Turning Round and Round

We always wish that if we could get one more life, one more chance, we could have lived a better life; we could have corrected the mistakes we have committed. We always think about the time when it becomes the past but we never think of taking precautions for the future.

Time keeps on moving. It waits for none. The title also says the same thing i. e. the wheel of life keeps moving. Time passes with its own speed. Nobody can control the time but yes how that time should go is definitely in our control which most of us fails to understand and think about.

Since childhood we are hearing the story of the grasshopper and the ant where the ant works hard to collect and store food for the future and the lazy grasshopper simply lies down without any worries. When the summer season arrives the grasshopper starves for the food whereas the ant is at relief because he had stored the food for his future. This is the best instance where we can see that how the time should go can be controlled by us. The ant wanted to have a relaxed meal in winter so he took the precautions. He was able to secure his future because he thought about taking the precautions but the grasshopper never gave a thought to the same. Moreover, he even made fun of the ant and asked him to stop wasting his time at present.

There is a renowned couplet given by Kabir, “Kaal Kare So aaj Kar, Aaj Kare So Ab, Pal me Parlay Hogi, Bahuri Karega Kab?"

Being a student I would correlate this with student’s life. :D Students always wait for the exams to come and when they try to study, they realize that if they would have studied it earlier, it would have been easier now but as it is said in hindi, “Ab Pachtaye Kya Hot, Jab Chidiya Chug Gayi Khet.”

The point is why we depend on tomorrow. We never realize that every tomorrow soon becomes a yesterday. This is the reason why time is considered to be money. Because once it flies away, it never comes back.

 

Thus, I would like to end up saying that yes, the wheel do keeps turning round and round but where it should lead us is all in our hands.

Nothing is steady in life

You will meet several people in your life, you will have several friendships, several relationships in your life but as it is said, "You come alone, You go alone". No relation, no friendship remains eternally in your life, one day all will go away. Though you make thousands of promises with each other to stay together forever in their lives but only a few lucky ones get such a chance to be together forever.
So we should never get so attached to anyone that you become the Deepika Padukone of tamasha and you stop living life. And if you get attached always remain prepared for the seperation because your destiny you never know when qill it seperate you from him/her. Because such an attachment only hurts you. And you never even know the other person may even forget you and move on easily. And this realisation hurts you even more. This is a very very bitter but the ultimate truth of life.

Power of Emotions over Intelligence

You can make your life mold in the way you want only if you remain resolute to get what you want. But the question is how we can make ourselves stable. We consider ourselves to be independent. But the question is are we and to what extent? If we are independent then why do depend on others for happiness. One person hurts us and our whole day gets sabotage. Why do we get affected by others to that extent that we start feeling low? There are instances where people remain angry for years with the people. But do we know that this only affects us and not to the other person who has hurt us. On the contrary, that person might be happy looking us in such a situation. Why do we let our negative emotions control us so badly that we start ignoring the positive things? And are we knowing that negativity is contagious. If we are sad right now we upset others for the whole day. It is just like a chain of happiness. Doing well to someone comes back to us someday. Similarly doing bad to others or even upsetting others comes back to us someday in some way. So why can’t we let go off the things. One negative thought in our mind while going to bed remains in our mind for the next whole day and this continues till the time we don’t let it go our mind.

Negative emotions are insidious which becomes the most deadly thing because we are not even aware about it that they are destroying, polluting our minds. Now the question is how we can stop these negative emotions from ruling our minds. The only cure, remedy or precaution to this is to preprogram our minds, ourselves. We constantly need to give positive commands to our minds. Now this process starts right from waking up in the bed in the morning till going to the bed in the night. You constantly need to tell yourself “I am Confident, I am Joyous, I am Responsible and so on.” This will always enable you to think in the positive indirection. This is just like the famous dialogue of the movie 3 Idiots “All Iz Well” where one tries to be positive and tries to avoid unnecessary stress. Initially it will be a difficult task but very effective in the long run. This habit will don’t let your negative emotions over power you. As soon as any negative emotion comes into your mind, your mind will immediately respond you saying “I am Confident, I am Joyous, and I am Responsible”.  As a result, one day will come where you will start ignoring your negative emotions.

The biggest negative emotion or we can say the biggest cause of negative emotion is Anger. There are people who get angry very easily. And there are people who even take advantage of our anger. Hence it is very important to have control over our anger. There are a number of ways how we can control our anger like meditation or doing things that you like the most. But as it is said Precaution is better than Cure. Similarly we should not let anger enter our minds. Because anger gives birth to all small and large catastrophes. Anger is the root of any problem. So instead of controlling it we should not allow our minds to get angry. This is possible only when we have control over our emotions.

This is what Brian Tracy somewhere intends to say in his book Kiss That frog which is worth reading.

Hence the only thing is to always be very aware to what are we doing, how, when and why. Because whatever we do to or with others someday do come back in someway.