You can make your life mold in the way you want only if you
remain resolute to get what you want. But the question is how we can make
ourselves stable. We consider ourselves to be independent. But the question is
are we and to what extent? If we are independent then why do depend on others
for happiness. One person hurts us and our whole day gets sabotage. Why do we
get affected by others to that extent that we start feeling low? There are
instances where people remain angry for years with the people. But do we know
that this only affects us and not to the other person who has hurt us. On the
contrary, that person might be happy looking us in such a situation. Why do we
let our negative emotions control us so badly that we start ignoring the
positive things? And are we knowing that negativity is contagious. If we are
sad right now we upset others for the whole day. It is just like a chain of
happiness. Doing well to someone comes back to us someday. Similarly doing bad
to others or even upsetting others comes back to us someday in some way. So why
can’t we let go off the things. One negative thought in our mind while going to
bed remains in our mind for the next whole day and this continues till the time
we don’t let it go our mind.
Negative emotions are insidious which becomes the most
deadly thing because we are not even aware about it that they are destroying,
polluting our minds. Now the question is how we can stop these negative
emotions from ruling our minds. The only cure, remedy or precaution to this is
to preprogram our minds, ourselves. We constantly need to give positive
commands to our minds. Now this process starts right from waking up in the bed
in the morning till going to the bed in the night. You constantly need to tell yourself
“I am Confident, I am Joyous, I am Responsible and so on.” This will always
enable you to think in the positive indirection. This is just like the famous
dialogue of the movie 3 Idiots “All Iz Well” where one tries to be positive and
tries to avoid unnecessary stress. Initially it will be a difficult task but
very effective in the long run. This habit will don’t let your negative
emotions over power you. As soon as any negative emotion comes into your mind,
your mind will immediately respond you saying “I am Confident, I am Joyous, and
I am Responsible”. As a result, one day
will come where you will start ignoring your negative emotions.
The biggest negative emotion or we can say the biggest cause
of negative emotion is Anger. There are people who get angry very easily. And
there are people who even take advantage of our anger. Hence it is very
important to have control over our anger. There are a number of ways how we can
control our anger like meditation or doing things that you like the most. But
as it is said Precaution is better than Cure. Similarly we should not let anger
enter our minds. Because anger gives birth to all small and large catastrophes.
Anger is the root of any problem. So instead of controlling it we should not
allow our minds to get angry. This is possible only when we have control over
our emotions.
This is what Brian Tracy somewhere intends to say in his book Kiss That frog which is worth reading.
Hence the only thing is to always be very aware to what are
we doing, how, when and why. Because whatever we do to or with others someday
do come back in someway.
