Kiss That Frog

You can make your life mold in the way you want only if you remain resolute to get what you want. But the question is how we can make ourselves stable. We consider ourselves to be independent. But are we actually what we consider and if yes, to what extent? If we are independent then why do depend on others for happiness. One person hurts us and our whole day gets sabotage. Why do we get affected by others to that extent that we start feeling low? There are instances where people remain angry for years with the people. But do we know that this only affects us and not to the other person who has hurt us. On the contrary, that person might be happy looking us in such a situation. Why do we let our negative emotions control us so badly that we start ignoring the positive things? And are we knowing that negativity is contagious. If we are sad right now we upset others for the whole day. It is just like a chain of happiness. Doing well to someone comes back to us someday. Similarly doing bad to others or even upsetting others comes back to us someday in some way. So why can’t we let go off the things. One negative thought in our mind while going to bed remains in our mind for the next whole day and this continues till the time we don’t let it go our mind.

Negative emotions are so insidious that they become the deadliest thing because we are not even aware about it that they are destroying, polluting our minds. Now the question is how we can stop these negative emotions from ruling our minds. The only cure, remedy or precaution to this is to preprogram our minds, ourselves. We constantly need to give positive commands to our minds. Now this process starts right from waking up in the bed in the morning till going to the bed in the night. You constantly need to tell yourself “I am Confident, I am Joyous, I am Responsible and so on.” This will always enable you to think in the positive indirection. This is just like the famous dialogue of the movie 3 Idiots “All Izz Well” where one tries to be positive and tries to avoid unnecessary stress. Initially it will be a difficult task but very effective in the long run. This habit will don’t let your negative emotions over power you. As soon as any negative emotion comes into your mind, your mind will immediately respond you saying “I am Confident, I am Joyous, and I am Responsible”.  As a result, one day will come where you will start ignoring your negative emotions.

The biggest negative emotion or we can say the biggest cause of negative emotion is Anger. There are people who get angry very easily. And there are people who even take advantage of our anger. Hence it is very important to have control over our anger. There are a number of ways how we can control our anger like meditation or doing things that you like the most. But as it is said Precaution is better than Cure. Similarly we should not let anger enter our minds. Because anger gives birth to all small and large catastrophes. Anger is the root of any problem. So instead of controlling it we should not allow our minds to get angry. This is possible only when we have control over our emotions.

This is what Brian Tracy somewhere intends to say in his book Kiss That Frog which is worth reading.

Hence the only thing is to always be very aware to what are we doing, how, when and why. Because whatever we do to or with others someday do come back in some way.